Doing one of my frequent Google searches of CV, I found this little scholarly piece which cited us in 2005. While I was not very involved in CV at that time, it makes me proud to know that the information this author found so helpful still stands on our new site, even now. The bit where the author, Nicole Eitmann, cites our site discusses our faithful old motto, SSC.
From Nicole’s paper, On Sadomasochism: Taxonomies and Language:
A final complication concerns the slippage in the public imagination from S/M to physical abuse and forced sex. Conversio Virium, a BDSM (bondage and discipline S/M) support group at Columbia University, has developed a policy statement outlining the differences between S/M and abuse. According to the group, â€œS/M includes intimate activities within the scope of consent that is freely givenâ€, while abuse is defined as â€œacts inflicted on a person without their freely given consent.â€48 A popular phrase among the S/M and fetish communities is that all sexual encounters should be â€œsafe, sane, and consensual.â€49 The limits of S/M encounters are mutually agreed upon by both participants, and a safe word that when uttered means the scene must end immediately, is arranged. The â€œsafe, sane, consensualâ€ benchmark is also adopted by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), an advocacy group supporting the rights of sexual minorities, specifically practitioners of S/M,50 although some in these communities question the applicability of this slogan to all who practice BDSM. One S/M participant noted that, â€œSane is so close to meaningless for me that I find it useless. Who is to say what is sane? Shall we pass judgement on each other, as to whether people and/or activities are sane?â€51 Such individuals do not question the propriety of the standard of consent, but do raise an interesting issue of how safety and sanity are determined, and by whom. Even the S/M guidelines published by Conversio Virium highlight consent as the most essential aspects of S/M, and stress the importance of mutual pleasure and respect in the S/M relationship.52
Things like this remind me that, even when our club is spoken of by sensationalist bloggers who can usually only see dirty side of CV, we are actually making a positive difference in the way the community to which we belong (and have, to some degree, created) is viewed by the rest of the word. Hooray for taking some of the bias against BDSM and its practitioners out of sociology (and for my run-on sentences)!