This week’s TES meeting is all about female ejaculation (sometimes called “squirting,” though I’m not sure why that term is limited to female ejaculations). From the Getting Wet…G-spot and Ejaculation meeting description:

What makes a woman (or anyone with a vagina, for that matter) soak the sheets? Where is that mysterious thing called the G-Spot? With straight talk and humor Felice will discuss the anatomy, myths and realities of vaginal ejaculation, and how to find and stimulate the G-spot. A live squirt demonstration and then the HANDS-ON part: Felice will help individuals and couples find their G-spots so that they can soak their own puppy pads too. Open to all genders.

Tonight is the Pleasure Salon’s monthly soirée!

The Pleasure Salon has been created to build community, allowing sex-positive activists to cross-pollinate. Our gatherings bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, LGBT, sex-activist, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, radical faerie, tantra, dark odyssey, sex-blogger, porn and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex. Through building networks in the sex-positive community, The Pleasure Salon hopes to help create a sex-positive world. It is a place for the open exchange of ideas and sensual expression.

This event is free and open to the public. I’ve always had a good time, and I’ve gotten the opportunity to meet quite a few big names in the various sexuality communities here.

TES-TNG, the under-35 contingent of TES, is hosting a Halloween holiday “Crafts Social”:

Come on down and join us for a Halloween social and crafts time. We’ll decorate pumpkins, tell scary stories, and yes, of course, there’s going to be candy, candy, candy. Come in costume or come as you are.

The TES bondage special interest group is hosting a presentation by David Lawrence all about how to make bondage work especially well for couples who want to tie each other up.

A rope workshop to explore hands on tying for the sensual expression and enjoyment between two people. This exploration will involve a discussion touching upon such topics as trust, connection, the space that rope provides to the top and bottom and how vulnerability opens the door to magical results. For the riggers in this workshop we will share knowledge with you that will enable you to go with the flow of a rope scene that completely mesmerizes your partner and vice versa. For those who have yet to bring rope into your play together or who have shared this magical connection this workshop will inspire you to new heights. Come on and join us! Needed for workshop: Four to six 30-foot lengths and your partner. Or just come and watch.

This next Saturday, TES is hosting a play party:

We’re not using the zed-word…so as darkness falls across the land, venture out for a wild night…where you’re better off undead…goin’ to a party where no one’s alive! Leave your body and soul at the door, and join your hosts Eileen and Theresa…for no mere mortal can resist the evil of the thriller. Dead, living, or somewhere in between, you’ll enjoy our music selection (it’s on random!)…a scrumptious buffet (for all you non flesh-eating mortals)…and plenty ‘o ghastly surprises as the midnight hour is close at hand. Mwahaha…who could ask for more?

Mmm…brain…!

This week’s DomSubFriends meeting is all about Erotic Rhythmic Caning, presented by The Loving Tyrant and Silky:

When most people think of caning, they think of something that is stingy, painful, and unpleasant… unless of course they are a real masochist.

This presentation will show you another side of caning. Caning can be erotic, sensual, and even fun. This style of caning is usually set to scene appropriate music, which could be any music that you and your bottom enjoy.

Ty will cover single cane techniques, double cane techniques, finding a basic beat, as well as more sophisticated rhythmic styles.

He will show you not only how to use canes, but how to use other cane-like instruments to add flair and color to your scene… especially your bottom’s bottom!

TES’s Novice Group is once again touching on an important topic: Scene etiquette.

For new…and even not so new bottoms and tops…the Scene can be a confusing place. Who can I talk to? Touch? Hit? How should I act? Dress? How do I get that person to play with me at fetish clubs and parties? Join Stacina as she draws on her many years of Scene experience (and no doubt countless lectures from her “Miss Manners” Scene Mommy Cleo Vale) to bring you the basics on scene etiquette, negotiation and responsibilities. This meeting is sure to help you lay the groundwork for success in the Scene.

Spend a single moment in any sexual situation and you instantly discover an incredible oddity in today’s culture: people tend to think that basic rules of courtesy, personal respect, and personal accountability are different than they are in non-sexual situations. I can’t for the life of me figure out why so many people get this so horribly wrong so often, but they do.

The fact of the matter is, Scene and BDSM etiquette is in large part very much the same as vanilla dinner party etiquette. Indeed, that fact is the origin of the phrase, “vanilla rules apply,” which means that everything you’d do (and not do) at a vanilla party in terms of interacting with other people are still not only appropriate, but expected at BDSM parties.

Like flogging? If you do, then you already know what’s better than a single flogger. That’s right, two floggers! :)

TES‘s meeting this Tuesday is going to be about learning Florentine (dual) flogging.

Learn Florentine flogging from the basics of dual flogger usage to advanced play. Discover how to use two floggers of similar or different textures for maximum effect. Knowing which floggers work best together coupled with technique can make all the difference. Please join Sir J as he takes us on a fabulous Florentine flogging journey!

This Friday, DomSubFriends invites the Doom Maidens, a company of female fetish wrestlers and physical dominants, to speak about erotic wrestling:

On the one hand, wrestling is the simplest sexy kink imaginable — two or more bodies tangled together and working hard… On the other, it’s an infinitely versatile form of play; adaptable to any number of moods, scene styles, or erotic tastes; capable of reinforcing or radically upsetting “traditional” BDSM power dynamics. Wrestling can bring domination to the ground in a rough and gritty contest of physical strength; it can set a sensual mood with the press and glide of skin against skin; it can even be a pure and light-hearted, good ole’ fun time.

Tonight, the Doom Maidens, New York City’s premiere fetish wrestlers, will introduce you to many of the flavors of wrestling play through a mixture of discussion, demonstration, and performance. They’ll address the comparative erotic virtues of pin versus submission (mmm, submission) style wrestling as well as teach basic holds that will give you the physical vocabulary to start playing sexily and safely. And if you’re eager for a chance to get on the mats yourself, rejoice! — the ladies will be looking for demo volunteers throughout the presentation and wrapping up with an instrutional period open to all.

The monthly “synthi-sexy” BYTE party is happening again, this time with a slew of new live performances and bands. Of course, there are the usual entry rules:

$5 for fetish divas. creative goths . cyberpunks. material girls. fashionistas…alternative sexiness…and anyone who can leave their inhibitions at home! $10 for all black, $15 all else. 21 and over please…no exceptions!

GMSMA‘s monthly meeting this time around is all about men in sexy rubber outfits:

Sleek, smooth, clinging, and hugging. Encased, hot, steamy, and sweating. What is the allure of rubber? What kind of rubber gear makes a man heat up and not only feel steamy, but look mysterious and hot? Ask our presenters and see a wide array of hot rubber gear!

At TES‘s meeting this Tuesday, Goddess Tatsumi is going to discuss the important topic of how to deal with a scene gone wrong.

Join Goddess Tatsumi as she discusses what happens when it all goes off the rails for a moment. How to you get back on track and evaluate what, if any, damage has been done? What about trust issues? It happens to all of us eventually, so be prepared!

Polyamorous-NYC is once again hosting Polyamory Pride Day in New York City. Poly Pride Day is a day-long celebration on the top of the Great Hill in Central Park. From the Polyamorous-NYC web site:

All Poly and Poly friendly people are invited to participate in this truly special, unique event. It will be an unparalleled opportunity for people from all over the country to gather and publicly celebrate polyamory. The main rally in Central Park will feature a full day of speakers and performers that will entertain, engage, and inform.

This event has already been in the works for months and promises to be a party of unparalelled proportions. The main attraction in Central Park features famous polyamory speakers such as Nan Wise and entertainers such as The Wet Spots (among others), but there are also two sideline events that are sure to be just as much fun. A giant cuddle party scheduled for the night before is being hosted by none other than the folks over at Cuddle Party, and an all-night long after party is being held at The LGBT Center!